You are not depressed… you’re distracted

By Facundo Cabral

You’re not depressed… just distracted… distracted because of this life that populates in you. You have a heart, a brain, a soul and a spirit, so how can you possibly feel unfortunate or poor? You’re distracted from the true life that surrounds you, dolphins, forests, seas, mountains, rivers.

Don’t fall for the same thing that your brother fell for, who suffers because of another human being, when there are more than 5.6 billion humans in this world.

Besides, it’s not so bad to live alone. I do just fine deciding what I want to do at every moment and thanks to my solitude, I know myself, which is essential in life.

Don’t fall for what your father fell for, feeling old when he is seventy, but forgets that Moses led the Exodus when he was eighty, and Rubinstein played Chopin like no other when he was ninety, just to name two examples.

You are not depressed; you are just distracted. That’s why you think you have lost something, which is impossible because everything was given to you. You didn’t even create a hair on your head; therefore, you can’t be the owner of anything. Also, life doesn’t take things away from you; it relieves you, lightens you so you can fly higher to achieve plenitude.

It is all a school from cradle to the grave; that’s why what you call problems are just lessons, and that’s why life is dynamic and it’s always in motion. That’s why you should pay attention to the present time. That’s why my mother used to say: “I’ll take care of the present time, God will take care of the future.” That’s why Jesus used to say: “Tomorrow doesn’t matter,” because he would soon bring new experiences. Every day should be lived to the fullest.

You didn’t lose anybody. The ones who passed away simply got ahead of us because, eventually, we are heading in that direction. And, the best part of them, their love, will always stay in you heart.

And who could say that Jesus is dead? There is no death… we just move on. And on the other side, there are wonderful people waiting for you: Gandhi, Michael Angelo, Whitman, St Agustin, Mother Theresa, your grandmother, and my mother, who believed poverty is closer to love because money distracts us with plenty of things and pushes us apart since it makes us grow distrustful from each other.

You can’t just find happiness. It’s not so easy. But all you have to do is listen to your heart before your head intervenes and gets in the way, which has been conditioned by your memory, and complicates things with old orders from the past, with prejudices that can make you sick or enslave you. It’s the head that can divide or impoverish. It is the head which cannot accept life as it is or as it should be.

Do whatever you love to do and you will be happy. Who does what he loves is blessedly condemned to have success, which will arrive at the right moment because what ever must be, will be, and will arrive naturally.

Avoid doing things for obligation or commitment, but rather do them for love. Then, there will be plenitude, and among all that plenitude, anything will be possible with little or no effort because it is moved by the natural force of life, the one that kept me going when my wife and daughter died in that plane crash… the one that kept me alive when the doctors said I had only three or four months to live.

God gave you the task of taking care of one human being: yourself. Only you will be able to make yourself free and happy. Only then, you will be able to fully share your life with others. Remember Jesus’ words: Thou shall love thy neighbor as thyself.

Reconcile with yourself. Sit in front of a mirror and think that the creature you see is a masterpiece of God. And choose right now to be happy because happiness is an acquisition -not something that will arrive to you on its own. Also, happiness is not a right, but a duty because if you are unhappy, you will make everyone else around you unhappy. One single man without talent nor value for life ordered the death of six million of our Jewish brothers.

There are so many things to enjoy, and yet, our journey in this earth is so short that suffering is just a waste of time. Some of the things to enjoy in our life are the snow, the spring flowers, chocolate from Perugia, French baguette bread, Mexican tacos, Chilean wine, the oceans, the rivers, Brazilian football, Davidoff cigars, books like One Thousand and One Nights, the Divine Comedy, Don Quixote, Pedro Páramo, boleros by Manzanero, poetry by Whitman, music by Mahler, Brahms, Ravel, Mozart, Chopin and Beethoven, paintings by Rembrandt, Caravaggio, Velazquez, Picasso and Tamayo among other wonders.

And if you happen to have HIV or cancer, there are two things that could happen, and both of them are good. If the disease beats you, it will liberate you from that awkward body (i.e. I am hungry, I am cold, I am sleepy, I feel like… I am right, or I have doubts)… And if you beat the illness, you will become more humble, more grateful. Therefore, you will be happy and pleased easily, relieved from any guilt, responsibility and vanity, ready to live every moment profoundly as it should be.

You are not depressed, you are just unoccupied.

Go and help that child that needs you, that child who will grow up and be partners with your son. Help the elders so the young will help you when you grow old. Besides, serving others is a guaranteed happiness as when you enjoy nature and care for it so others will do the same in the future. Give without limits and you will receive without limits. Love others until you become loved. Or even better, love others until you become love itself.

And don’t allow yourself to be confused by the few who are homicidal or suicidal. Goodness is part of the majority but it’s not noticed because it is silent. A bomb can make more noise than a caress. But for every bomb that destroys, there are millions of caresses feeding the forces of life. Goodness feeds on itself. Evil destroys itself. If the bad guys only knew what great business it is to be good, they would all be good guys, even if it was just for money.

You are not depressed… you’re just distracted.

If you would listen to that other one, the being inside you, you would know everything. And in everything, you would find that something that is the right thing for you. Then you would elevate yourself constantly, and there would no longer be confusion. Instead, there would be different color shades. And in that serenity, you would not look for anything, but yet, you would find everything. And in the present time, you would say and do everything in every moment naturally and gracefully with no effort, which would make your relationship with others plentiful. And growing up within the force of love would make you more creative, without limits or conditions.

Ignorance creates our limits and makes us feel mortal and confined, which means that we alone create our own prisons and limitations. Fear distracts us from love, which is courageous and wise because it knows it cannot be measured.

You’re not depressed! You’re distracted from all the wonders taking place around you, from children being born to harvests, from revolutions to concerts, from football tournaments to interplanetary voyages! You’re not depressed because of something that happened to you in the past. But rather, you are distracted from everything, which is the here and now…
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Quotes of the day by Robin Sharma

“Every second you spend thinking about what you don't want in your life is a second denying focus and energy from getting what you do want.  Every minute you worry about what's not working is a minute drawn away from creating what will work.  And every hour spent reflecting on the disappointments of the past is an hour stolen from seeing the possibilities that your future holds.”  ― Robin Sharma ..﴾͡๏̯͡๏﴿..!

Love and Time

Once upon a time, there was an island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others, including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so all constructed boats and left. Except for Love. Love was the only one who stayed. Love wanted to hold out until the last possible moment. When the island had almost sunk, Love decided to ask for help. Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat. Love said, "Richness, can you take me with you?" Richness answered, "No, I can't. There is a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you." Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel. "Vanity, please help me!" "I can't help you, Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered. Sadness was close by so Love asked, "Sadness, let me go with you." "Oh . . . Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself!" Happiness passed by Love, too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her. Suddenly, there was a voice, "Come, Love, I will take you." It was an elder. So blessed and overjoyed, Love even forgot to ask the elder where they were going. When they arrived at dry land, the elder went her own way. Realizing how much was owed the elder, Love asked Knowledge, another elder, "Who Helped me?" "It was Time," Knowledge answered. "Time?" asked Love. "But why did Time help me?" Knowledge smiled with deep wisdom and answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how valuable Love is."   Remember that when things may look the bleakest, and when all appears abandon, Time is capable of solving anything. Things may not have a solution today, but tomorrow you may find one! -unknown ..﴾͡๏̯͡๏﴿..!

Life Tips II

Learn to focus only on the present.The past is unchangeable so it is futile to reflect on it unless you are making sure you do not repeat past mistakes. The future is but a result of your actions today. So learn from the past to do better in the present so that you can succeed in the future. He who controls the present, controls the past.  He who controls the past, controls the future George OrwellDon’t take life so seriously!Learn to laugh at the little things and this whole “existence” thing will be a whole lot easier. Be amused by your mistakes and failures and be thankful that you learned your lesson and won’t mess up like that again. And most importantly do things that you enjoy! Life is not strictly business, it can be mixed with pleasure.Read books.No explanation needed.

For full text see link below

http://www.highexistence.com/life-secrets-and-tips/
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Life Tips

Memorize something everyday.Not only will this leave your brain sharp and your memory functioning, you will also have a huge library of quotes to bust out at any moment. Poetry, sayings and philosophies are your best options.  Develop an endless curiosity about this world.Become an explorer and view the world as your jungle. Stop and observe all of the little things as completely unique events. Try new things. Get out of your comfort zone and try to experience as many different environments and sensations as possible. Even more specifically, live in THIS moment.Even 10 minutes ago is the past. If you live purely in this moment you will always be happy because there is nothing wrong in this split-second.See link below High Existence for full textLife secrets and tips

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How to Be Happier

Most of us tend to think that if we just had a bit more money we'd get more satisfaction out of life, but on the whole, this turns out not to be true. So why doesn't money make us happier? New research by Jordi Quoidbach and colleagues suggests that the answer lies, at least in part, in how wealthier people lose touch with their ability to savor life's pleasures.

Savoring is a way of increasing and prolonging our positive experiences. Taking time to experience the subtle flavors in a piece of dark chocolate, imaging the fun you'll have on an upcoming vacation (and leafing through your trip photos afterward), telling all your friends about the hilarious movie you saw over the weekend - these are all acts of savoring, and they help us to squeeze every bit of joy out of the good things that happen to us.Create plans for how to inject more savoring into each day, and you will increase your happiness and well-being much more than (or even despite) your growing riches. And if you're riches aren't actually growing, then savoring is still a great way to truly appreciate what you do have.


J. Quoidbach, E. Dunn, K. Petrides, & M. Mikolajczak (2010) Money giveth, money taketh away: The dual effect of wealth on happiness. Psychological Science, 21, 759-763.


read more @ http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-success/201012/the-top-10-psychology-studies-2010
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QUOTES FOR THE DAY

"Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts." --Buddha

“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” Winston Churchill

"A man's life is what his thoughts make of it. Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking." Marcus Aurelius 

"All that you accomplish or fail to accomplish with your life is the direct result of your thoughts. You are today where your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you." James Allen

 

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QUOTE FOR THE DAY

If you can't be a good example -- then you'll just have to be a horrible warning -Catherine Smith

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Gandhi's top 10 Fundamentals for changing the world

1. Change
“You must be the change you want to see in the world.”
“As human beings, our greatness lies not so much in being able to remake the world – that is the myth of the atomic age – as in being able to remake ourselves.”

2. Control.
“Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”

3. Forgiveness
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
“An eye for eye only ends up making the whole world blind.”

4. Action.
“An ounce of practice is worth more than tons of preaching.”

5. The present moment.
“I do not want to foresee the future. I am concerned with taking care of the present. God has given me no control over the moment following.”

6. Everyone is human.
“I claim to be a simple individual liable to err like any other fellow mortal. I own, however, that I have humility enough to confess my errors and to retrace my steps.”
“It is unwise to be too sure of one’s own wisdom. It is healthy to be reminded that the strongest might weaken and the wisest might err.”

7. Persist.
“First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.”

8. Goodness.
“I look only to the good qualities of men. Not being faultless myself, I won’t presume to probe into the faults of others.”
“I suppose leadership at one time meant muscles; but today it means getting along with people.”

9. Truth
“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
“Always aim at complete harmony of thought and word and deed. Always aim at purifying your thoughts and everything will be well.”

10. Development.
“Constant development is the law of life, and a man who always tries to maintain his dogmas in order to appear consistent drives himself into a false position.”

http://www.positivityblog.com/

A few words about our personal storms

“And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in.”~Haruki Murakami

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QUOTES FOR THE DAY Frases Famosas

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. -Buddha


And what u do not know is the only thing u know/And what u own is what u do not own/And where u are is where u are not. - T.S. Eliot


People will forget what U said, people will forget what U did, but people will never forget how U made them feel -Maya Angelou

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True GRit

True Grit is a synonym for courage, honor, fortitude, braveness

Do You Have True Grit?

The formal definition of Grit is of rough granules, as of sand or stone. The psychological definition of Grit is as a positive non-cognitive trait that involves perseverance of effort to accomplish a long term goal no matter what obstacles or challenges lay within a “gritty” individual’s path.



Research defining grit as perseverance and passion for long-term goals found that as a trait, Grit had better predictability for success than IQ or conscientiousness.
The person with true grit is not likely to be the student with the highest SAT Score, the team member with the greatest talent, the manager with the Ivy League background or the most popular Mom on the block.

Actually the person with true grit shares the following qualities

• A clear goal
• Determination despite others’ doubts
• Self-confidence about figuring it out
• Humility about knowing it doesn’t come easy
• Persistence despite fear
• Patience for the small stuff that obscures the path
• A code of ethics they live by
• Flexibility in the face of roadblocks
• A capacity for human connection and collaboration
• A recognition that accepting help does not equate to weakness
• A focus and appreciation of each step in the journey
• An appreciation of other people’s grit
• A loyalty that never sacrifices connections along the way
• An inner strength that brings them to their goal

article by 

SUZANNE PHILLIPS, PSY.D., ABPP



Full article and link to The Grit Survey  


True Grit Survey

want more read got-grit-true-grit by Bill Zipp





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Quotes for thought

“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”  Paulo Coelho (The Alchimist)

“It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about.” ~Dale Carnegie

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Wise YODA

“Do or do not… there is no try.”

“Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

Attachment leads to jealously. The shadow of greed, that is.”

“Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose.”

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LOVE LOVE

When you say YES to others,
Make sure you are not saying NO to YOURSELF.


Paulo Coelho

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The fisherman, the Businessman and a life to live

There was once a businessman who was sitting by the beach in a small village.

As he sat, he saw a  fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught quite few big fish.

The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”

The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”

“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.

“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.

The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”

The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”

The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman. “I am a PhD in business management. I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, recruit more fishermen and lead a team of your own. You can set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village to a big city, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”

The fisherman continues, “And after that?”

The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”

The fisherman asks, “And after that?”

The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”

The fisherman was puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”

Know where you're going/what you want in life... you may already be there!

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Some nice Aphorisms

       You don't have a soul, You are a soul, you have a Body  C.S. Lewis

“The happiness of your life depends on the quality of your thoughts.” 

- Marcus Aurelius. 

“Any fool can criticize, condemn, and complain. And most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”  Dale C.

“You don’t attract what you want, you attract what you are.” Wayne Dye

“The most courageous act is still to think for yourself. Aloud.”    - Coco Chanel

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And the Buddha says.....

All the Buddhas of all the ages have been telling you a very simple fact: Be - don’t try to become. Within these two words, be and becoming, your whole life is contained. Being is enlightenment, becoming is ignorance.

- Osho

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Some aphorisms

Never mistake knowledge for wisdom: The first helps you make a living; the second helps you make a life. -- Sandra Carny

Begin doing what you want to do now. We are not living in eternity. We have only this moment, sparkling like a star in our hand, and melting like a snowflake. -- Sir Francis Bacon

If you have two pennies, spend one on bread to give you life, and one on a flower to give meaning to your life. -- Ancient Chinese Proverb

Who lives without folly is not so wise as he thinks. -- Francois, Duc de La Rochefoucauld



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INSTRUCTIONS FOR LIFE

So cuales do already follow?

01. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
02. Memorize your favorite poem.
03. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have, or sleep all you want.
04. When you say, "I love you", mean it.
05. When you say, "I'm sorry", look the person in the eye.
06. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
07. Believe in love at first sight.
08. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much.
09. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely.
10. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.
11. Don't judge people by their relatives.
12. Talk slowly but think quickly.
13. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, "Why do you want to know?"
14. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
15. Call your mom often.
16. Say "bless you" when you hear someone sneeze.
17. When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
18. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; Responsibility for all your actions.
19. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
20. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
21. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.
22. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.
23. Spend some time alone.
24. Open your arms to change, but don't let go of your values.
25. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.
26. Read more books and watch less TV.
27. Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you'll get to enjoy it a second time.
28. Trust in God but lock your car.
29. A loving atmosphere in your home is so important. Do all you can to create a tranquil harmonious home.
30. In disagreements with loved ones, deal with the current situation. Don't bring up the past.
31. Read between the lines.
32. Share your knowledge. It's a way to achieve immortality.
33. Be gentle with the earth.
34. Pray. There's immeasurable power in it.
35. Never interrupt when you are being flattered.
36. Mind your own business.
37. Don't trust a man/woman who doesn't close his/her eyes when you kiss.
38. Once a year, go someplace you've never been before.
39. If you make or have a lot of money, put it to use helping others while you are living. That is wealth's greatest satisfaction.
40. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a stroke of luck.
41. Learn the rules, then break some.
42. Remember that the best relationship is one where your love for each other is greater than your need for each other.
43. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.
44. Remember that your character is your destiny.
45. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

taken from the following website http://penn.betatesters.com/wisdom03.htm

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